Getting started
Your first session
The unknown is usually the scariest part. Here's exactly what to expect.
Minute by minute
How the first fifty minutes go
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The first five minutes
We start with introductions and logistics — confirming the video connection is working, going over confidentiality and its limits, and answering any questions you have about how sessions work before we get into anything else.
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The middle
This is mostly me asking questions and listening — what brought you here, what's been going on, and what you're hoping is different on the other side of this. You don't need a prepared speech. I'll guide the conversation if you're not sure where to start.
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The last ten minutes
We wrap up, talk about what a next session might focus on, and you can ask anything that's come up for you during our time together. Nothing gets rushed just because the clock is running out.
Common worries
What people ask me beforehand
Then you cry. It happens often, and it's never something to apologize for or feel embarrassed about in session. Keep tissues nearby if it helps, but there's no expectation to hold it together here — that's part of the point of having a space like this.
That's completely normal, especially in a first session. I'll ask questions to help find the thread worth following — you're not responsible for arriving with a clear narrative or knowing exactly what's wrong.
Not if you don't want to, and definitely not in the first session. We go wherever is actually useful for what you're working on. Some work does eventually touch on earlier experiences, but that's never a requirement, and it's always your call how much detail to share.
If you are struggling: reaching out for support can be one, small courageous step toward feeling more like yourself again.
Life can be tough, but you don't have to go it alone. Help is available.